Vulnerability isn’t that scary!
This is what I have learned from Brené Brown, vulnerability isn’t that scary!
Long before I started reading her book “Daring greatly” I had decided I wanted to embrace vulnerability more in my life, and not too long after my decision, I started seeing or hearing about this book everywhere.
I am a great one for signs so eventually I gave in and I started reading it. I’ll be totally honest, I didn’t find it to be a page turner, nor was it life-changing for me like other books have been but none the less I did gain knowledge from it, very useful knowledge at that.
I learned a lot about shame from this book. I learned how important it is to build shame resilience within ourselves. Shame is something I was no stranger to growing up but now that I have started to embrace and love my authentic self, shame is something I rarely experience anymore.
“Shame is so painful because it is inextricably linked to the fear of being unlovable.” Nobody wants to feel unlovable. I certainly don’t. And for years I have avoided being vulnerable for that exact reason. Did it work for me? No!
I built up “walls of protection”, I didn’t let people see the real me, I tried to be who people wanted me to be. None of it worked, it left me feeling drained, ashamed and hurt.
I am learning that vulnerability isn’t weakness, it is strength. It isn’t debilitating, it is life-giving. It doesn’t mean giving away your power, it means embracing it!
Embracing vulnerability isn’t a destination, like all personal development it’s a journey. And I can honestly tell you, it doesn’t have to suck, so far for me it has been great!