What are you doing with yourself now?
“What are you doing with yourself now?” It’s a question I used to dread!
I dreaded it because I never truly loved or was really happy with what I was doing or was able to speak passionately about what direction my career was going in. I started working at 18 and spent 7 years in my first part-time job, don’t get me wrong the job was invaluable to me, paid great and I worked with lovely people but I wasn’t too enamoured with the work and it felt like a means to an end. When I was in college I was doing Arts to get into the teaching conversion course – another means to an end. When I got into the Hibernia course I was finally training to be a teacher but there was going to be a long road after that and everyone would ask “But sure teaching is an awful hard job to get into, it’ll be years before you get a permanent job!” again it felt like another means to an end. I decided to skip the bother of subbing here at home and try to get my dip done ASAP in London – another means to an end. I got so sick of being passed over and fobbed off, after two years I came home, back to square one and feeling utterly useless and like I had accomplished feck all career wise. It was such a long battle and I had the head down, so determined to get where I was going that by the time I lifted my head up, I had been going round in circles and the job I had trained and worked so hard to get in the end wasn’t even what I wanted anymore. The stuffing had been knocked out of me and the wind taken from my sails, it was time to get off the merry-go-round and figure out what it was that I really wanted from my career.
I knew I wanted to help people but I wanted to take my passions and interests into account too and I’ll be totally honest, I am much more of a leader than a follower so I knew running my own show was going to be my best option! Next decision, what the hell was I going to set up a business in? I was thinking along the lines of counselling or psychotherapy and when I started researching courses out there, that is when I discovered Play Therapy, something I had never heard of in my life. My gut instinct screamed, this is for me!! I got into teaching because I wanted to help children like myself and felt this was the only way I could, in hindsight I know this was quite naïve but I clearly didn’t receive the best career guidance! I instantly felt a strong affinity with Play Therapy, all my research lead me to see it is one of the best available therapies and holistic interventions. It was something I would have hugely benefitted from when I was growing up and because I still really wanted to work with and help children, there was nothing else for me.
I decided to start a blog merryme.ie documenting the things that made me happy. That lead me to the question one day while brushing my teeth, “If I were to do a masterclass down the line, as all good bloggers do eventually, what would I do?” the word “Life Coach” I thought to myself people often comment on how easy it is to talk to me and how people open up to me straight away and I’m great at giving advice!! I nearly choked on my toothbrush with the excitement! You see that’s what happens when you make a decision that rightly resonates with your soul, you just know this is a step further towards your life’s purpose. Straight up to the sitting room with me, phone out and I started looking up Coaching courses, the rest is history!
Personal Development is my ultimate passion because it saved my life. Not physically of course but mentally and spiritually. It saved my soul from being crushed and from a life full of negativity and unfulfilled potential.
So, when someone asks me “What are you doing with yourself now?” I don’t dread answering the question anymore, I speak passionately about it because I love what I am doing, it makes all the difference in the world!